Reinventing

I use to think reinventing oneself required a lot of money, time, pain, and suffering. Throughout the years life has revealed to me how simple reinvention actually is. Not easy, simple.

It is in fact the human mind that creates these walls of "protection" against reinvention. Our thoughts may resist the responsibilities attached to change. However, I am here to share with you practical steps to reinvent yourself. This process can happen over night, in a month, or in several years. It solely depends on the person, life circumstances, and prioritization.

In this blog I will share with you three steps that has helped me transform. I've reinvented myself multiple times, and currently undergoing another transformation. Just remember reinventing yourself isn't a destination it is an everyday practice of choosing and challenging yourself beyond limitations.

Step 1: FACE THE FACTS

True reinvention requires transparency with self. Why do you want to reinvent yourself? Are you unsatisfied with your current life situation? What is holding you back? How do you feel about yourself. Do you have the right people in your life?

All of these questions correlate the truth about how you feel about yourself and life. The quicker you face the REAL facts the quicker you can start the reinvention process.

Hiding the truth will only enforce disappointment and prolong suffering.

The actual reinvention process isn't the scary beast that hunt you at night. Instead it is the fear of facing the truth. It is also important to take into consideration that change doesn't necessarily mean misery is present. One may have an urge to transform just for the sake of pivoting in a new life's direction.

Step 2: STOP RESISTING

Most of the time we know when a situation or season in our lives has expired. We also know deep what we should be doing but avoid that thing by all means. Why do we continue on this cycle of "dealing" with the same circumstance that makes us unhappy? "Dealing with it" really means mental, spiritual, and physical exhaustion. Most people would agree that fear is a big part of why we choose suffering. As I analyzed my own life and the people around me I noticed this:

Resisting is suffering twice.

What does suffering twice mean?

I think about all the times resisting caused fear to reign over my life. I resisted in business. I resisted in relationships. I resisted in friendships. I resisted my own intuition.

When we choose to resist we are suffering twice.

First we make our inner knowing/intuition/soul suffer because we refuse to listen to it. Then we make our human experience a frightening expression of that suffering. There you have it suffering twice.

We suffer internally and externally by resisting what is. For an example, I was a hard core people pleaser in my early twenties. Emphasis on the WAS. I would work myself into burnout because I didn't want to let anyone down. I also wanted to always have it together, juggling one thousand things at once. During that time I was suffering twice because I neglected my intuition telling me to rest. Consequently, I was not happy within my human experience.

I encourage you to stop resisting what is. Instead acknowledge what is. If you are curious like me discover how 'what is' makes you... YOU. Instead of resisting discover. Switching your perspective from criticizing to creating will give birth to acceptance and gratitude.

Step 3: SEEK INTERNAL VALUE

Where does your value come from? Is it woven into the clothes you wear? Is it embedded in the seats of the car you drive? Is your value determined by the relationships you possess?

Acquiring value from the world around us will always result in disappointment and uncertainty. Seeking external validation sends a signal to our inner self, and that signal screams, "I DO NOT TRUST MYSELF". I know that signal. As previously mentioned, I struggled heavy with people pleasing. The root of people pleasing is self doubt, and the fruit is an addiction to reassurance.

Life revealed these facts to me :

• Other people struggle with similar battles.

• No one has all the answers ( we are all just figuring it out).

• No one is coming to save me.

• Value comes from within. Value comes from God. Value can not be taken away or changed by the world.

These three steps of action catapulted my life of transformation. I pray that this blog serves you well on your journey of reinventing yourself.

It is time to choose you.

I really enjoyed writing this blog. I was able to look inward and reconsider how I am applying these concepts in my own life. I am still figuring it out... and from what I've learned I'll always be figuring "it" out. That's ok with me.

My life is currently taking a radical pivot. I've decided to take some time from behind the chair. Finishing Touch Barbershop will forever be a place of growth, love, and family. I appreciate all of my clients for the overflow of love and support. Finishing Touch Barbershop made my time in Columbia,Tn extraordinary. Words alone could not express my gratitude and heart. Piecing together my next life chapter: Soul Development.

Remember to envision, aim, and become.